Unpopular opinions are my thing and often comes from a place of real-life self-reflection where I look in the mirror and ask myself, “how did I fall for that” or “how could I have made such a dumb decision?” Now before you get all fake positive hard on me for talking that way, remember, it’s ok to be honest with ourselves! It doesn’t mean beating ourselves up for bad decisions but acknowledging them so better choices can be made in the future after recognizing some hard lessons.
So to all the new age light worker good intentioned souls out there who mean well, this spiritual identity is also an ego construct….an identity formed around a persona. The ego is not bad, this construct happens because we are here to create ourselves, re-invent ourselves, try on new hats, embody new traits, get to know ourselves, but above all else, we’re here to be human and have epic experiences!
So, embrace your persona, own who you are and be open to changing it because at the end of the day it doesn’t matter how spiritual you are when being human is the ultimate spiritual experience.
To want to escape your humanness through excessive meditation, plant medicine journey’s, positive affirmations, denying thyself worldly things, balancing your chakras, kundalini raising, off-grid living, tantra-filled acts, festivals attended, and healing certifications received is to deny your true spirituality.
I’m not saying not to do those things as they can bring about experiences and useful practices when approached in moderation and as tools to clear the mind, body and soul. It’s the over-use and obsession that leads to escapism instead of utilizing these modalities when things move off track or as part of self-care.
If you really ascended to 5D, then you wouldn’t be sitting in line at traffic lights or navigating the circus of daily life, travel, trials and tribulations like the rest of us, and I have yet to see anyone be so conscious that they are fully exempt from this, whole and complete (no matter what they say on the socials).
To ascend to 5D is to deny parts of the self that are the very reason we’re here and is a fallacy, a denial of reality.
To be human is to be the most spiritual, the question is how human are you willing to be:
- Can you look in the mirror and be honest with yourself while also being kind and taking action to shift what you’re not happy with?
- Can you put in the daily work to shift limiting beliefs and step into your greatest fears?
- Can you have hard conversations with those you love?
- Can you move through confrontation as an act of courage, integrity and self-love or do you avoid it?
- Can you do what’s right even if it’s not popular?
- Can you speak up when it’s hard?
- Can you stay in integrity when temptation calls?
- Can you grieve and give yourself the chance to alchemize deep seated emotions or do you label them as negative and pretend to be positive or numb them out instead?
- Can you sit in discomfort, in the uncertainty and mystery of life while not being engulfed by it?
- Can you get up every day and do something, make something, show up even when it’s hard…even when you are tired…even when you don’t feel like it?
- Can you move away from distractions and into more focus even if that means letting go of people, habits, beliefs or old versions of self?
- Can you find something to be grateful for every day, the shitty days and the good ones?
- Can you open your heart to be loved and give love?
- Can you build a deep relationship and bond with a partner by putting in the time and effort needed for something lasting, choosing to show up even when there is unease, uncertainty or unequal exchanges?
- Can you wake up and do something different than yesterday without getting caught up in the doldrums of groundhog days?
- Can you find joy, laughter and happiness in the beautiful gift of life even when things go awry?
- Can you get uncomfortable in order to get better?
- Can you make changes and kick your own ass into gear or do you wait for the Universe to do it for you after letting things get so bad there is no other option?
- Can you open yourself up to relationships after always seeking refuge in solitude Can you become a hermit after always seeking refuge in relationships?
Life may look “easy” to some but that’s because they are woefully ignorant of reality, in denial, OR have actually done the work to wake up, show up and become better versions of themselves day after day. It takes practice, training, effort, and skill to grow. It takes courage to look at what is not working in an effort to re-focus into a new path, into unknown territory. It takes facing fears to make what seems hard today easier 3 months from now.
What feels more spiritual to you, the person showing up in real life every day or the person sitting in meditation for 2 hours avoiding hard things and convincing themselves that life is great? How is the person pretending to be positive any different than the politician pretending to be honest? The outer reflection can look good and sound convincing but when one is not in integrity, the inner turmoil churns inside no matter what is presented to the outside world and eventually catches up.
Life is spiritual. To thrive in life is to show up for life, to not waste time avoiding it but seek precision in a constant re-direction of time, energy, resources and focus that is continuously tugged at from a million different directions.
So if you’re on your high horse telling yourself that you are special and you’ve ascended and there is no more work to be done, all your worldly responsibilities have vanished, well, congratulations…. but I bet one day you will laugh, come back down to earth and realize how special, beautiful, messy, magical, real and spiritual being human really is.
Now go do your meditation…AND…then go be in-life, aka enlivened, for everything you think you have time for begins with the thoughts and actions you take today!
Keep working on “ascending” into greater consciousness but don’t forget to put down roots and get dirty planting seeds deep into the soil of the earth…the hearth…the heart, the art of being.
What’s it going to be? What will you look back on and wish you did or didn’t do? Can you shine your light from within while living inside of the temple of the human frame and condition? Can you emanate from a higher consciousness through compassion for other life? Can you be a lighthouse for the unique expression of being gifted with this life by being fully you, giving others an example to do the same?
Stay weird, but you’re not special because you think you’ve ascended, you’re special because of what you choose to make of your time on earth, of the persona you embody as a living expression of the Divine and it is this here and now that “matters.”
Lastly, remember to laugh. Someone close to me reminded me how incredibly special laughter is, how the Divine shines in the joyous expression of sharing in a deep belly laugh, a sensuous giggle, a chuckle from the inner-child or a soulful grin across from someone that comes through, not only the mouth, but the eyes too. Sometimes I am convinced that joy and sorrow are indeed the truest spiritual expression because the intersection of both is pure love, the one pendulum that swings but always carries its treasure. The weight of one may seem heavier, but both rest inside the chamber of having loved in real life, proof that your existence in human form was real, the inner knowing that the feather of lightness/laughter/joy/being and the heart of heaviness/sorrow/heaving are harmonious because neither can exist without embarking on the journey of love. So don’t hide from love, don’t escape it by disassociation, don’t numb it out by fearing it, don’t bury it deep underground, instead, feel it, all of it, and take it with you into the present and the afterlife, remember it from the past and seek it in the future. All memories and messages sit here, all things balance upon this knowing mixed up inside an experience that is often not logical, but magic made from letting love play and life sway in the most real and human ways!